Very recently, a photo of a tea seller became viral. Many Indian women posted their reaction about how ‘hot’ the chai wala looked. A woman even posted online asking not to bomb Pakistan because that country had a Chai wala looking like this. The tweet even contained one too many heart emojis.
Had the chai wala been not that fair in complexion, would our Indian women still have called him handsome and drooled over him? There is nothing wrong in preferring a specific complexion and calling it ‘your type’. The problem starts when someone’s personal preferences are confused with big things like racism or sexism.
According to Indian and foreign women, Indian Men are “racist” and “patriarchal” when some of them prefer a fair skinned girl over a dark skinned one. However, when Indian women want the most fairest looking guys, that’s not “racist”.
I see almost every Indian woman swooning over Pashtuns (our whole goddamn film industry has been based around them), Sindhi guys, Kashmiri guys, fairer Punjabis etc who are genetically light skinned. Ain’t nobody got any love for award winning actor Nawazuddin Siddiqui though.
Even down South, where the colour of your skin gets relatively darker in larger numbers, their film industry is full of fair guys, often in the lead. Some of the guys that come to mind are Mahesh Babu, Siddharth etc. Rajinikanth seems to be the exception but women do not call him romantic or drool over him, like they do over Mahesh Babu or Siddharth.
Indian women seem to have the same ‘preference’ as their male counterparts. But hey let’s ignore that. Let’s concentrate on the fact that Indian Men do the exact same thing that Indian Women do. And that obviously makes the men wrong and full of oppression against Indian women. What a pity!
Let’s also ignore the fact that the Left-Liberal narrative of skin colour in India being associated with “racism” is total bullshit. Or the fact that it has more to do with the tropical Asian culture of fairer skin people being considered culturally regal because darker skin in the old days implied that you were a peasant working in the sun all day.
Enter any supermarket and you can find the fairness creams both for men and women. If women were the only ones rejected based on looks and skin complexion, India would not have a ‘Fair and Handsome’ market. ‘Fair and Lovely’ is not the only fairness cream (Oh sorry, I need to call it ‘fairness treatment’) in India.
There’s a ton of guys out there, myself included that prefer dusky women over pale skinned women. I have yet to meet an Indian woman who likes a dark skinned guy as a matter of preference. For them it’s either all about a fair skinned fella. Or they’ll usually say, “looks don’t matter.” Which roughly translates to “I’ll take what I get.” But never have I seen Indian women preferentially desire dark skinned Indian guys.
Now that the facts are laid out in open, you decide who’s the “racist” now. Is our feminist-influenced society trying to make a biased women’s issue out of a phenomenon that affects everyone? Are there any other things that affect everyone but feminists try to portray it as an exclusively women’s issue? Are we being psychologically programmed into gynocentrism instead of equality?
One can see the truth only when he opens his eyes!
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