Contrary to popular belief, most women are abusive, dominating and control-freak when it comes to relationships. As goes the popular joke, “Women definitely need husbands; after all they can’t blame the Govt. and God for everything.” While it may sound funny, this is the bitter reality most men live with.
However, when it comes to abuse of men, the problem goes deeper. It is an issue of a stark educational gap for men. A vast majority of men are unaware of what’s abuse in a relationship. Many a times, men bend backwards, adjust beyond limits and make unreasonable compromises just to keep their woman happy while not realizing that they are subjecting themselves to abuse. They are protecting their own abuser while thinking that this is a way of life. Hence, it’s important for men to get educated about what is abuse in a relationship and how women abuse?
Below are some of the signs and behavioral patterns to find about if your woman is abusive or not.
- She is very demanding and expresses constant dissatisfaction that you are not doing enough for her.
- She constantly says how tough women’s lives are.
- She constantly says how easy it is to be a man.
- She blames you or tries to pin blame on you for small things.
- She is constantly asking you about your whereabouts and suspects you for every small thing.
- She does not believe in sharing expenses even though she might be earning.
- She wants her space but does not give you your space.
- She does not respect your hobbies and ridicules them.
- She constantly reminds you that your life was pathetic before she came into your life and that she has improved your life.
- She slowly tries to alienate you from your social circle.
These signs all or any of them being in your relationship can be extremely dangerous for you as you will slowly start feeling suffocated and when you react back, you will be accused by the woman of being insensitive to a woman’s demands in a relationship, non-caring, non-loving and all of a sudden you will be a villain for the society that wouldn’t blink an eye before ruining your life.
Women perpetrate abuse in relationships as they are non-committal but they will force you to give a commitment. Also, since the society has not prescribed any pre-defined role for a woman, she can easily change her stand and make a statement that suits her current situation.
However, for men, things aren’t equally rosy. Society has fixed a predefined role for men in relationships – that of a protector. Whether it’s just a casual relationship or marriage, men are always expected to play the role of a bodyguard, and a protector. Much as we may progress, the traditional belief that a man must protect his woman does not get away and even into the 21st century, men aren’t freed from that burden of protection.
So, whenever, a woman complains about a man, his role as a protector is challenged and he is deemed to be a failed protector and that is enough to ruin the life of a man.
So, if your woman is too complaining, slowly she will escalate the complaints and make your life hell. Men need to wary of such occurrences in relationship and make an early exit from the relationship before it’s too late.
Yet another form of abuse which women perpetrate in relationships is the financial abuse. Often men are made to feel guilty for not spending enough or not satisfying her. Also, many a times men are advised to buy gifts for their women while the women continue to abuse them. Women achieve this with their constant nagging nature and ability to play the victim card at will.
Women abuse men financially because they know that’s where it hurts the man the most. Men get abused financially thinking this will impress the woman and out of love she won’t be abusive but it works counter-productive for men.
If men take enough endeavors to get educated about relationships rather than just trying to be the nice guy in relationships, their lives would be much more peaceful and many men can be saved.
While, it being a fact that most women are abusive in relationships, and also that the society and govt. would not protect men as well, still, just by getting educated, men can salvage a lot of damage.
After all, it’s a man’s life and his choice.
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