On that night of P.V.Sindhu’s Silver winning victory, I was in an Uber along with four of my buddies on a long distance travel inside Bengaluru. ‘Looks like the fight is going tough!’, said a buddy, probably looking at a Whatsapp message from his other friends. Without any warning, he gave his wide screen mobile phone to me, with his 4G live streaming on, for me to hold, so that everyone in the car can watch the badminton match.
I was initially uneasy – because I am an open Men’s Rights Activist. P.V.Sindhu was very near her victory and I was very conscious of what other people in the car felt about me. I felt the judging eyes of my friends boring through my skull thinking that my stomach might be burning at that moment. I could even imagine what a devout feminist friend of mine, who was not at that place, would be thinking about me at that moment – that I would burn with rage because a woman is bringing silver to India when no man did.
However, I should now break the secret that I was thrilled on seeing the match and I so wanted P.V.Sindhu to win. Not because she was an Indian but because she was an Indian ‘Woman’. Fake MRAs might be pissed off at me for writing this (shitty) article but, I choose to remain unapologetic. Why? Is it because I am not a true MRA? Is it because I value women instead of men? Go find it out yourself!
The true answer for the above question lies in how much one internalizes the men’s rights philosophy. I am of the opinion that true women empowerment will free men from the crippling patriarchy, which expects men to do their 16th century responsibility of being a protector and provider, while allowing the changing role of women every now and then by letting go of their responsibilities.
Do sports truly empower women? Absolutely, yes! The sports teach them the rules of ‘fairness’, even if it is among their female counterparts only. Whatever be the gender, it is very difficult to ignore the attractiveness of ‘fairness’ as a concept, once you are exposed to it. Exposure to fairness opens up the opportunities for real, undisputed self-improvement. Fairness helps you to develop a unique personality of your own. This uncovers the drama of fake improvement by making ‘entitlement’ appear worthless. Staring at fairness into the eyes helps one to understand what bad things entitlement can do to their self worth. Yes, in my MRA vocabulary, not discrimination, but ‘entitlement’ is the opposite of fairness. (Here, I am using ‘entitlement’ as the word meaning ‘special privileges’.)
Every male friend that I have craves to spend time with their little kids at home. A true MRA wants all women in their country to be over-qualified and over-earning than men so that men can take the reverse role of being with their kids and taking care of their homes, the job that gives the most emotional satisfaction. Of course, MRAs have to work on dealing with social impressions on house husbands too – but, one thing at a time!
True women empowerment would enable men to be house husbands, doing the work that gives intrinsic happiness from the people who matter, allowing women to take care of the money-making business which involves extrinsic motivations predominantly.
In other words, for every P.V. Sindhu that we cheer, we are debunking the feminist myth that men are superior to women and that women are oppressed. For every Sakshi that we clap for, we are making it known that men welcome brave and powerful women, whose empowerment comes as a result of fairness and hard work.
I chuckle when I see people claiming these iconic women’s victory as victory of radical feminism. Their victory is about the validation of men’s rights philosophy as much as it is about feminism (I am still confused if it is victory or defeat of feminism here. But, one point is clear – People want to make it about feminism)
So, let’s find ways to engage women in real empowerment and that will free men from patriarchal illnesses like Maintenance, Alimony and large suicide rates. Child custody for men would be an easy and more meaningful issue to fight for when all fathers are house husbands. In the fight for men, we also need to show this world what real women empowerment is. At last, that is what guarantees men from their long-standing plagues.
Some of you might be disappointed at the lack of masculist emotions in an MRA’s post about women. Here they come:
- No one ‘genderized’ the victory when Abhinav Bindra won gold. But, everyone is shouting “Women power” when these women won medals. I can now see why “Gender Studies” courses talk only about women.
- The same people, who cry about “lack of facilities” to Indian players at Olympics, talk about how Indian men were good for nothing at Olympics. Remember that if not winning a medal makes one good for nothing – then you are talking about 117 athletes in total.
- Adding to the above point, if going to Olympics and not winning a medal makes one ‘good for nothing’ then what does ‘not even getting out of the couch, leave alone going to the Olympics’ make YOU?
- I feel extremely offended that no one praised Abhinav Bindra or any other male as “India’s Son”. Get lost you discriminating fools!
- Males who were responsible for such victories (yeah- the coaches) like Gopichand are conveniently left out of this woman power narrative. Why this one-sided inappropriate hedonism?
I hope that this served your daily dose of masculism.
Before we part, you tell me – Do Indian MRAs (or men) hide their faces after the Rio Olympics? In my opinion, certainly not – because no feminists (or women) hid their faces when countless men died protecting women, children and their countries since historical ages.
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