If you are a male living in India, don’t be shocked if you get a legal notice one fine day from your child’s play-school or creche demanding half of your salary. It is also possible that your servant maid or cook will demand the remaining half of all your salary otherwise, she will put you behind bars. Oh, I forgot one more aspect – They both will file multiple criminal cases on you using the money you gave them.
If you are still thinking that I am over-reacting, Google the keyword “Maintenance”. It is a common practice that even when the wife earns well, a hefty maintenance amount is awarded to her. The institution awards the money, but the husband pays it.
Why is this – the creche demanding half of your salary and domestic help demanding another half – a real possibility now? This can happen because Indian men like you don’t react with disgust but stupidly applaud when someone talks about looting a man’s life and feeding a woman with his blood, just because that woman is married to him and has acquired the notorious status of ‘Wife’. Notorious? And Wife? Doesn’t go well? Read on!
It is a stark naked reality that wives have been the sole reason in one way or the other for the breakdown of the concept of joint family. Yes, one of those wives may very well be your mother right now. But that does not change the fact that your mother was the reason behind the breakdown of the joint family, which your father cherished and belonged to. And yeah, you empathize with your father’s wife because she had more face-time with you than any other human being on earth when you were brought up.
Wives breed enmity between men. It is a very common sight that the brothers who were on peaceful and amazing terms, turn enemies just after marriage. It is also taken for granted that usual interactions between friends in a male-male friendship, if not the friendship itself, is assumed to be stopped once a guy gets married. Most joint families and thick male-male friendships break because of the emotional abuse of a man by his wife.
Wives isolate men from all their meaningful relations and single them out with sugar coated promises of love and care if only things were all ‘set-right’. If there is any person with whom the wife has a conflict or even a possibility of potential conflict, the husband is neatly separated from that person. In many cases, that person turns out to be the family and friends of the husband.
What does a man get in return from his marriage? Emotional support, physical intimacy and care for children and himself. Note that the care for children and himself include cooking, feeding kids, bathing kids, keeping the house clean, etc. In exchange of all these services, the husband provides protection and financial security to his family.
Now, looking at the above, what does a woman get in return from her marriage? Financial security! In exchange of the financial security, she takes care of the children and provides emotional support and physical intimacy to the husband.
If you see the current trend, it is a crime to expect the wife to fulfill any of her obligations in the institution of marriage. Requesting your wife to make a cup of coffee for you amounts to domestic violence. On the brighter side, all these services are available from other sources at a cost or for free. Yes, all these services including physical intimacy! It is just that men do not resort to buying physical intimacy for money because there is a moral taboo associated with it. On the other side, a woman cannot get financial security outside marriage. She has to earn the financial security by working for it.
If you think for a second, it becomes clear that the past two or three generations have witnessed a well played covert strategy by wives supported by feminists to strengthen their financial security for free. First, they promptly eliminated anyone who receives financial support from their husband or gives emotional support to the husband from his life, so that the husband has to solely depend on the wife for emotional support. Then, they slowly stopped giving emotional support and criminalized any expectation from the woman in the institution of marriage. Now, tadaa! They get financial security for free. In other words, they get financial security in exchange for abusing the husband.
As if that is not enough, feminists push the institution to make sure that women get their financial needs met, even after the marriage is broken. The tools like alimony and maintenance help the wives in this process. There is no process which takes care of the husband’s needs after a divorce.
Now the recent icing on the cake is that there is a demand for splitting assets during divorce, which further strengthens the financial security of a divorced ex-wife. Why not force the wives’ side to pay for husband’s maid or domestic help after a divorce, throughout the lifetime of a man? This is why I am telling you – the time is not so far when your maid or cook demands half of your salary.
Oh, by the way, did I tell you that according to the current judicial system, a man has a hundred halves of his salary. So, he can apparently never run out of halves of his salary to give. What a mockery of justice and betrayal to the man who shed his blood to earn money only to take care of his family!
This demand of splitting salary on divorce also makes men bonded with an abusive wife, of course, only until the time they kill themselves. The only observable effect of ruthlessly high maintenance orders will be the sudden spike in the number of male suicides, which is by the way already double the number of female suicides in India. Yeah! Another not-so-observable effect will be the number of unmarried men in India and hence the increase in the number of brothel tip-offs to the law enforcement. Hail feminism!
P.S: I can hear someone screaming at the front – “Women don’t just do domestic work. They work and earn too.” My response would be, “Well, why don’t these women, including you, go work, earn and then take responsibility of an entire family the way men do. We were talking about gender equality, right?”
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